I have been a resident at The Barrington for several years and I am a widow. I am happy here; never lonely, very safe, with friends and a caring staff.
Beating Depression During the Holidays Back
Let's begin by understanding that depression is real and it is not a sign of weakness. There are two types of depression, 1) caused by brain disease where people lose some (or all) of their ability to feel happiness from happy things. When you cannot find happiness or pleasure you lose interest in activities and feel sad or numb. 2) Caused by reaction to a severed loss or your involvement in a serious situation. This person can still laugh at funny things but when the situation comes up they are reminded of it and get sad or upset and the cycle of depression starts again. Holidays make a great impact on depression because of what the holidays bring. It is expected that holidays bring happiness but for many people holidays carry a lot of stress. People stress about guests coming in, shopping for gifts, they have to bake, clean or entertain or being lonely because they do not have family.
Here are some tips to help you deal with depression during the holidays:
- Get out and get some sunlight and exercise. This time of the year the days are shorter and the sunlight isn't around as long. Go for brisk walks and get your blood flowing. When you are depressed, your tendency is to stay put so fight it and get some exercise. The release of endorphins will help you to feel better.
- Don't abandon healthy habits. It is easy to over eat or overindulge in other things and this will add to your stress and guilt. Make sure that you eat a healthy snack before you head to a party. Get enough rest and sleep so that your body feels rested.
- Acknowledge your feelings. If you are upset about a loss know that what you are feeling is natural and it is okay to feel sadness and grief. You should embrace the sadness even though it's the holiday season. Reach out to those around you. If you feel lonely or isolated, share these feelings so that others know and can include you. Sometimes people will isolate you because they think you want to be alone. Open communication about your wants and desires will be helpful and beneficial for all.
- Plan your holidays out:
If you have to shop: Plan a shopping day. Make a list of those you need to buy gifts for, what you want to get them and what stores should carry these items.
If you have to bake or cook: Make a list for what you are baking & cooking. Plan menus and shopping list. This will help you prevent last minute shopping frenzies that will cause so much stress on you.
- Say YES to you, which means you must learn to say NO to others. Saying yes to somebody or something means you will have to say no to you or your needs. You must remember that you need to say yes to yourself so that you can protect yourself.
- Finally and most importantly: If you need professional help, do not put it off. Seek professional help. There is a stigma that has been put on people that seek professional help. Think of it this way - people go the gym for their physical health, people go to church for their spiritual health, people go to school for their knowledge health so going to therapy is to protect, maintain and be emotionally healthy.
The first time I walked into the Barrington I had a very warm feeling. The entire staff is very caring and helpful. I enjoy all the activities and social events that we have. I really enjoy the food; our chef does a great job. I feel that there is something for everyone here to in enjoy here at The Barrington. I have made some wonderful friends with the residents and staff. The Barrington is a great place to live.
I came to the Barrington in 2009; this place saved my life. The room my daughter picked out for me overlooks the school and the children who go there. The trees and the surrounding grounds are beautiful. I love to walk outdoors and meditate. I also enjoy our trips to the beaches and parks. I am on the welcoming committee, serve at happy hour, and I go with the Marketing Team to do outreach. This is my home and the staff is my family.
The Barrington in Largo, FL, was recommended to us by A Place for Mom as an option for my parents. My wife and I visited The Barrington for a tour. We were greeted by Sherrie (Regional Supervisor, Tarantino Properties) for our visit. Sherrie was extremely knowledgeable & professional; a great representative for The Barrington. We also met Linda (Nurse Administrator) in order to describe the care needs required for my father. Linda was very understanding of my Dad’s needs and took the time to formulate a care plan for my father. Linda was extremely helpful with a great sense of humor. From the start, we were comfortable with The Barrington. The residents were happy, friendly and outgoing; we even spoke with a couple of them. We were provided with an overview of the facility (both assisted living & independent living) and walked the property. From the front desk staff to the caregivers, all personnel were professional, caring and friendly. Unlike the numerous other ALFs we visited in the Tampa, FL, area, The Barrington offers 1 bedroom apartments; not studios. This makes your “home” feel like HOME not just one room with a bathroom. The units even have small kitchens and screened covered lianas (porches). Very nice touch! The Barrington was very clean; very important to us and my parents. We knew from the time we walked in to The Barrington, this was the place for Mom & Dad. As a result, we scheduled a second visit for my parents to visit the property. My parents were pleasantly surprised with the beauty of the property; large facility surrounded by huge oak trees and even a swimming pool! If you have a vehicle, covered parking is provided; what a bonus. Again, we were greeted by Sherrie; she took the time to show my parents the grounds and treated us all to lunch. …..and a great lunch too! We met the chef and the food was really good. Our server, Jolene, was very personable and even though she did not know my parents, she joked with them and made them feel right at home. The Barrington has a Nurse Practitioner on site as well as a contractor providing on site physical therapy. My wife and I met all healthcare professionals and were pleased with all. How convenient; healthcare professionals on site and you don’t even have to get in the car to go anywhere. The Barrington has complimentary van service that meets everyone’s needs. In conclusion, The Barrington was the place we all decided would be “home” for Mom & Dad. My parents have been residents at The Barrington for about 1 month now and all is good. They have told me the residents are friendly and they like the staff. They have bragged how good the food is….very healthy options and if you don’t like healthy, then you can order a grilled cheese, hamburger or hot dog with onion rings. :o) Of course my parents are going through an adjustment but the staff at The Barrington have made Mom & Dad feel right at home. Since moving in, The Barrington continues to impress. On July 4, they had a cookout for the residents. They have happy hour one evening a week…..even took the residents to a local park for a picnic; also took the residents out for free slushy day offered by the 7-11 store. There is complimentary Wi-Fi offered in the lobby and basic cable tv (BrightHouse) is provided free of charge in each residents room. Bottom line – Mom & Dad’s home cannot be replaced but The Barrington is the next best thing.
I love it here. This place is just like next to heaven. It's as close as you can get.
I love it! Katie and Amber are so helpful and keep me involved. Everyone is so kind here. I love bingo. We have such sweet, sweet people working here. The food is outstanding too!
I love it here. Katie and Amber are the reason I love it here. You both are exactly why I love every day here.
There are just so many activities here that it's hard to choose what to do. I love the poker on Thursday nights. It's been an easy transition for me.
The people that work here are really nice and attentive. I like playing Scrabble and staying busy. Our walking club is really fun. I love being outside. Our walkway around the building is so nice. I always like when they come in and help me get ready for my day in the morning. The Parkinson's program is so nice to get my day started too.
I like the activities here. That's my favorite part. We painted bird houses and now they're in the courtyard. I love the entertainment here. The music is from the right era! I am really happy.